Death, however uncertain it seems to be, play a fundamental role in our life. In the corner of our hearts we know that we have to leave this world and die one day and no matter how hard we try, we can’t change this truth. Death is one of the biggest reality of our lives. It happens on the continuous basis, sometimes of our friends, sometimes of our family members and sometimes of those who we consider the gems of our life. But life never stops for anybody, it goes on, it’s us who had to get the hold of it. Just like we need to get the hold of life, we must’ve got the hold of the behaving in funerals. Funeral are the last and biggest celebration of someone life. It’s the mark that the person has left in physical form, but will stay in our heart forever.
But still, if you are the one who feels a little weird and uncomfortable in funerals of our loved ones, or does a blunder in it, you need to know the funeral etiquette guide. A guide which we are going to share here for your help.
Let’s get started-:
1. Everything About Sympathy Message-
The first and foremost step to tackle a grieving situation is to send a heartfelt message to the family of the deceased. It should not be a simple status on a Facebook or twitter wall saying that you loved them or you are sorry for their loss but a professional message. It could be either handwritten or a professional funeral card online, expressing your deepest feelings for their loss. This will show them how sincere and candid you are for their loss.
And if you don’t know what to mention, don’t know the person so well or having a hard time in expressing your feelings, say something like, “I am deeply sorry for the sad demise of Uncle Peter, please accept my heartfelt sympathy, for you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.”
2. Story of Flowers in Funeral-
You can send them flowers to express your sincere feelings. It’s a perfect alternative for those who are not so perfect in managing the embalming process. People send flowers as a sign of respect, however, sometimes people consider flower as a waste of money as what the family would do if they have so many flowers. Thus, people prefer to donate money in their funeral service or send them cards. However, if the deceased is Muslim or Jewish then please don’t send them flowers, as it is avoided in their tradition.
3. Know the Difference Between Funeral & Memorial Service-
Next step is the funeral service. It’s always a funeral service if there’s a body and a coffin if a body and coffin are not there, it’s called a memorial service. The funeral service is more famous and is considered a substitute about a celebration of a person’s life. And all of that depends on what a person has desired for himself, a memorial service or a traditional funeral service.
4. Fit in the Funeral Process-
Well, this guide is entirely about you, hence you must focus on how you fit in and how you adapt the process a death note or a funeral magazine would be having the complete guidelines about what is ought to be done by you. If you do drink or have liquor, know that this is not the right time to be drunk or misbehave. The best way to fit in a funeral process is to attend the service, donate or bring flowers or card, converse with family and gently leave.
5. Control Your Voice & Behave Nicely-:
Know that it’s not the right time when you should talk to people loudly, rather it’s the time when you must listen everyone peacefully and pay regards to what’s going on in there.
6. Eulogy Guide-
It’s a tradition to have a heartfelt tribute to the deceased known as Eulogy. If someone had asked you about eulogy, you must think about how you speak about a person in a very sincere, focused and dignity-wise way. Remember, it’s not the right time to talk about how bad that person was, how much girls he has dated, rather than focus on the good qualities of that person. Talk about the times when he has touched your heart.
7. Dress Code-
Never wear jeans, shirt, sacks, or any kind of attire which is dis-respectful for the funeral.
a.The Best Attire for men to wear in a funeral is a navy suit, a black suit, a white double cough shirt, a black tie and dark colour trouser. For Shoes, Wear Black Leather Shoes.
These are some of the points you must notice before attending a funeral or going on to a funeral.
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